Throughout history, adoption has been a hidden option that many women have chosen as a last resort. Perhaps you can identify with this matter of thinking. Adoption’s history has made it difficult for many women to embrace adoption as a positive solution. But there is a way. First, it is important to explore any realistic obstacles; such as, the ideals of your family and/or those of the biological father. Perhaps your educational or career goals are at risk. Perhaps your finances do not measure up or you have very little support and resources. Once these obstacles are in focus, you can look at them with clarity and recognize that an adoption plan might be the answer you have been waiting for.
Secondly, it is possible to overcome obstacles which are not as concrete as money, your future, and assistance. You may be battling your conscience or examining your motives. You might question your values and doubt your morals. You may be struggling to find what is proper and expected of you in society or overly concerned with what others might think of you if you make an adoption plan. What is real for you may be distinctly different for another person. It is important to know yourself and commit to honoring exactly who and what you are. Through the counseling process you will explore these obstacles which may be keeping you from doing what you believe is best for you and your child.